Posted by Hayden Allen on Wed 27th September 2006 at 05:26 AM, Filed in Body Language
This conversation has come up more than once down the pub. An attractive girl walks by and she has her knickers showing. It may look a little cheap and nasty but there is something that makes a man stop and stare.
However, I think most would agree that if you are a more robust lady then the exposed g-string really doesn’t do any favours.
Unfortunately, this example might be enough to put any man, woman or child off their burger!
I think the trend has almost done its time now and I guess it is similar in a way to how some blokes have their jeans half way down their ass. Surely women can’t find this attractive, or am I just not ‘street’ enough to understand it?
However, a glimpse of ladies underwear showing (on the right girl) is often more exciting to look at than any exotic mags or films because it stirs the imagination… and trust me ladies we have a very vivid imagination when we want to, especially after 3 pints of the finest Stella Artois.
All I’ll say is that if you can carry it off and you look good, then we are putty in your hands… but if your postively spilling over, don’t expect any attention apart from upturned noses. I’m sure other women look at this in the same way.
What do you think?
Posted by Hayden Allen on Fri 22nd September 2006 at 08:46 AM, Filed in Body Language
There are some great ways to tell if someone you are talking to is talking absolute crap. This is extremely useful to know when you are out and could meet a potential partner at any time. How many times have you heard your mates say “they were full of crap” after they had been chatted up.
None of the following non verbal signals are actual proof of deception, but they give you a good idea. The only true ways to find out is by putting a gun to their heads OR putting them up for a lie detection test – two very unlikely outcomes when you are in a bar chatting to them.
So, what are the signals to look for:
Heavy sweating – especially palms
Uneven breathing
Swallowing more regularly
Slower speech
Blushing
Avoidance of eye contact
Twitching (very slight)
If you are unsure about someone in terms of their statements, make a mental note and ask them again later – this will expose many men claiming to be pilots who suddenly become firemen!
Posted by Hayden Allen on Thu 21st September 2006 at 08:44 AM, Filed in Body Language
If a prospective partner is truly interested in you then they should display at least 4 non-verbal signals towards you. No less as otherwise you could be making a HUGE mistake!
You must also be sure that those signals are coming your way rather than someone else’s, as well as taking into account that we all like to flirt, and the signals could be purely of a flirting nature.
If you have read 4 clear signals it’s a great time to wade in and strike up a conversation, but beware of changing body language when you do this as you may find it goes against you and turns negative. However, one positive signal could easily lead to hundreds of them!
Also bear in mind that you should put no time line to signals as it may happen in 5 minutes or it could even be over 5 months.
Look for any of the following:
Open palm pointing to the object of their desire
Mirroring of your gestures
Head tilt exposing the neck
Self touching
Presentation of wrists
Legs and feet pointing at you
Posted by Hayden Allen on Sat 22nd July 2006 at 09:39 AM, Filed in Body Language
Men often make the common mistake of thinking that if you don’t have a washboard stomach, a great singing voice, a successful career, full head of hair, be dashingly handsome and rich, and have an amazing personality then you will never land the woman of your dreams. You have Hollywood to thank for that!
If it can work for him then it can work for anyone!!!
I have written 10 essential tips if you want to better yourself and become more desirable to women, follow them and you will change your entire outlook on dating and grow in confidence.
Ladies I’d appreciate your feedback here too, give us fellas some pointers, after all we are almost a different race to you!
1 – Eye Contact. Crucial for building trust from a ladies perspective. Next time you are at a bar you will subconsciously undress a woman with your eyes… don’t go there, women hate it!
2 – Become a listener. Many ladies like to feel they are being heard and most blokes like to talk about themselves. Shut up and listen, also ask some searching questions which will allow them to open up a little. Share some opinions as long as they are not sexist! Don’t whatever you do lie…. Women are smart and trust me they will work you out immediately.
3 – “Can’t buy me love”. The Beatles got it right, most women don’t want to feel indebted to you immediately and rightly so. By all means buy them a drink, but don’t force it on them. With the shocking rise in date-rapes you will also have to ensure the lady feels like she is in complete control of the situation. After buying her a drink don’t feel like she now owes you something… she doesn’t. If she likes you she will talk to you.
4 – Talk her language. Find out her interests and what she gets up to. It’s a known fact that people love talking about themselves, especially the ladies! Show a genuine interest and she will show an interest in you. Ask her some opinions. It’s almost like a market research exercise, use open ended thought provoking questions rather than closed. It’s too easy for them to get bored!
5 – Positive mental attitude. Keep conversation light, she doesn’t want to know how you were dumped by your ex for not getting an erection! Always say to yourself that ‘you are desirable’ and that is what your aura will give off.
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Posted by Hayden Allen on Sun 9th July 2006 at 04:29 PM, Filed in Body Language
It’s a well known fact that women are from Mars and men are from Venus, there’s even been a book published on the subject. The only difference now is that some bright young sparks at the University of Bath have proven that men are the shallower sex, and go for looks as a priority when looking for a perfect partner. Women on the other hand tend to go for the tone of voice; they even find it a turn on.
Irresistable eh ladies, this man has been melting hearts for over 40 years!
According to the survey almost 50% of the women questioned said that a way a man speaks is crucial for gauging whether or not they may be a suitable partner. The scientists also found that, on an average people take just 15.5 seconds to decide on someone’s suitability as a partner.
The research was commissioned by internet dating service Match.com.
Fellas, don’t go taking up smoking 50 fags a night to give yourself a better chance of scoring… there are other ways!
