Hi, I recently went to a club and was hit on by my mate’s ex girlfriend and was completely surprised. We were all dunk and we ended up having a snog away from prying eyes. She has tried to contact me a few times by text but I haven’t responded because I feel so bad about it and am afraid that my mate will go mental as she dumped him over 6 months ago and he was gutted. What should I do?
I’d appreciate some advice please. My friend has recently started seeing this guy and now she’s ignoring me as well as all our other friends. We all think he’s no good for her because he is in complete control of the relationship and spends all his time with his friends. I want to tell her how I feel but not sure how to do it and am afraid that I’ll push her away even more.
Hi, can you help me…
I’ve been dating a girl for 3 months and really like her. The title of this email reflects the relationship – ‘my chemical romance’ because I’ve discovered she’s addicted to cocaine! I personally can’t stand the stuff and would love to see her step away from it entirely, but am I in my rights to ask her?
Yeah the sex is great and we both get on really well… apart from when she is on the dreaded come down when she basically hibernates. I don’t know what to do to be honest, do I carry on regardless thinking she’ll get bored of the stuff OR spot trouble now and get out?
An interesting question. One of those with an interesting answer.
You will soon learn just how liberal your new partner is just by experimenting as you would do normally in a new relationship. Normally in a new relationship you can’t keep your hands off each other, it’s all new and sexual pleasure at its peak. It’s like having a new toy you can’t leave alone.
During this period you will learn a lot about each other, predominantly what turns them on or off. Bedroom toys are often a taboo subject in the early stages of a relationship because they are the intimate secrets of their past. Therefore if you want to broach the subject you need to be careful as not to embarrass the other.
If one of these bad boys comes out… get ready for kinky!
If you want to get onto the subject an idea may be to suggest a date around your local city’s local Ann Summers shop or similar, this way you can introduce the subject in a light hearted manner as you see the ‘Rampant Rabbit’ in the shop window. A simple tongue in cheek ‘wow, look at that, bet it gives some thrills’ can open the subject right up without it becoming threatening or forced onto your partner. You never know they may even suggest you buy one together then and there!
I noticed your info on the web and I just had to get in touch and ask for some major help.
I have met a very nice attractive person in the local Gym and we have had chats which have been very pleasant indeed and we generally meet on a Monday for one of the classes. I visited Brussels recently and decided to bring some Chocolates back for her which I think she was very happy with.
I got a nice txt message to say that she was sorry that she had missed me the other week and that she should be in next week. Well she was which was great and this I guess has been going on for about 3 months (knowing her and seeing her in the Gym). Started charting as you do, the other night she mentioned that she is going out on a date this week with a guy that is older than her.
Now, have I miss read the situation along the way? (this would usual for me)
Is she possible interested and is testing me?
Is she actually going on a date as she has thought that I was not interested.
I have never been able to pluck up the courage to ask her out as it always sounds bad, destroys the goodfriendship and I generally get No all the time, hence not asking for a long time.
What is my next move? do I ask how her date went and what sort of response should I do in return?
Have I missed the boat?
Forever grateful on any help.
Doctor Date says
I think you are missing something here. I believe she is awaiting you to make the first move, and so you should.
You may have been playing too cool, and she is now trying to entice you to stand up and grab her!