Hello, I have a girl in mind but I am hesitant to ask her out.
I have never talked to her, I purely want to date her because she is attractive and becuase she seems polite when she talks to her friends. Now this is the first time I am going to ask someone out (I am 16), so I am very nervous. I was thinking something of along the lines of this: Going up to her after our third period class together and stopping her in the hall, saying this: Hey, sorry, this might seem weird, but I’m going to be frank, I think you’re really cute, and that you seem to have a great personallity, so I thought I’d give this a try: If you don’t have a boyfriend or anything, I thought maybe we can hang out sometime and get to know eachother?” If she says something along the lines of “yes” I would ask for her phone number.
Cupid Says:
Dear fightclubsoap
Your story is one that is emailed to me regularly..
Everyone’s circumstances are different of course but I think I know where you are coming from. It is a brave move to go straight up to someone and ask them out so you are obviously a confident man. I would suggest a slightly different approach, one that worked for me really well;
Go up to her, preferably when she is alone or with only one friend and look directly into her eyes, your body language should be confident so keep your shoulders back and body straight (check out my body language section) - this is really important as you are taking the lead in the situation. Take a big deep breath before you do it so as you are really chilled out when you do it. You should act interested, BUT relaxed about the asking.
OK, so now you are facing her and you have her attention, be direct (as you were planning) and very casually ask whether she would like to come to a party / concert / picnic with you. Don’t be so blatant as to ask whether she has a boyfriend or not - remember - ‘YOU ARE WHAT THIS GIRL NEEDS’. What you can’t do is be too upfront with her as it is too easy for her to say ‘NO’.
The venue choice is very important and something that could seal the deal for you (check out my tips on venue and my essential ideas for the first date). Is there anything going on in your town soon that would be viewed as ultra cool? The venue choice will be an extension of your coolness. I’d recommend a picnic in a park or something, and take a Frisbee so you can interact a little. Also take your iPod or MP3 player so you can talk about music and what you both like. When it comes to preparing the food, do this yourself - ladies just love the fact that you have made the effort for them.
Go for it dude, and let me know how you get on!
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