Not as odd’a question as you may think. Blokes never have pubes in pornos, women never seem to have any pubes these days…. So does that mean men shouldn’t either.
Ummmmmm.... where to start?
As a bloke representing ‘malekind’ I need you ladies to tell the truth and reveal what is a good look down their. I can’t imagine you’d like a fella who looks like a werewolf down there, apart from the fact it gets sweaty and smelly down , surely it can’t turn you lot on because it must cause chaffing!
But then if we do shave, surely it’s gotta give you some sort of stubble trouble?!
Seriously, the amount of Brazilians and Hollywoods out there, there is obviously some sort of trend to follow, BUT why isn’t there any clear rules as to what men are supposed to do / what women want to see?
Please help me tidy this one up!!!
I’ve got a nightmare on my hands and need some help please. I have been with my husband for 4 years now (married for 2). We are not sexually compatible at all and it’s pretty mundane actually! I do however love him like crazy. I recently found a ‘no strings attached sex’ dating site where I found a guy in a similar situation. We met up after a few naughty photos were swapped and had the most amazing sex ever.
It felt like a kettle letting off steam. I am still with my husband and he doesn’t know anything, however I have massive guilt about what happened and rightfully so… but am tempted to get back to this guy I met online. I know what is morally right but I don’t know whether I should be selfish for once and put myself first… the sex was good though, and it was only sex after all!
Doctor Date says
Marriage is all about commitment to each other so I am certainly not advising about the benefits of cheating. Although this question is not related so much to dating, I feel like I should at least give you the benefit of my knowledge and experience.
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Hi
I’ve just got back from a holiday in Spain with my best friend (we are both girls) and am really upset with her. We both have long term boyfriends and when we were away she met a new bloke and decided to spend the entire holiday having this holiday romance and ignoring me. But that’s not why I’m upset with her, her boyfriend is crazy about her and a really nice guy and would break his heart if he found out about what she got up to. The guy she had a fling with was a complete tosser anyway!
I’m not sure what to do as she is my best friend, but I feel really sorry for her man and would hate to see him hurt. What should I do?
Doctor Date says
The old holiday romance eh! I suggest you leave your friend and her man to it. If you told him then he may not talk to you again or suggest you are trying to break them up or similar. You will also lose your friend. Unfortunately to say, boyfriends come and go and if she can’t remain faithful then you can pretty much guarantee that it won’t go the distance anyway. I’d express your disappointment to her and suggest that she will lose him if she messes him about any more and therefore she needs to make a decision as to whether or not she wants to be with him any longer.
I’ve met this girl online and been out for 3 dates. We haven’t yet kissed and I really can’t tell if she likes me or not. She has contacted me via email a few times but is playing it really cool. I quite like her and we get on well, but I just don’t know if it is going anywhere. What do you think I should do and is it worth me telling her that I like her?
Barry, UK
Cupid Says:
Hmmm… sounds to me like she is being really cautious and making sure there is a mutual feeling before she goes to the next stage. If you met her online then there is every possibility she is dating others and seeing what works for her – there is nothing wrong with that and you should allow her the space she needs to decide what she wants to do next. Ask for another date and check out some of my tips for reading her body language and gauging whether there is a spark for her there.
Also, at the end of the next date ask her whether she enjoys spending time with you. If she is a decent person she will be honest and upfront and let you know where you stand. You can also try leaving the communication in her court after the next date and just wait for her to come back to you – she will if she likes you.
Keep your options open and perhaps try dating a few others too. Like I say before there really isn’t a problem with this from a dating etiquette point of view.
There’s this guy at work who I think is really cute. I don’t know if he has noticed me and I’d really appreciate some advice as to how to get noticed and win him over. He’s not in my department and we are on different floors in the building so don’t get to see him that often which makes me think it could work.
My friends say I should go for it but I am really scared of getting knocked back.
Help!
Cupid says:
Go for it, but be aware that if it doesn’t work then you have to face that person regularly. A good time to make your move would be out of work, this way the pressure is off the person and you’ll have more chance of a positive answer. I always say nothing ventured nothing gained and you will only kick yourself if you don’t ask. Suggest a coffee or lunch somewhere and just go have a chat. He will gauge you are interested because you have noticed him and wish to spend time with him and should therefore get a quick indication whether or not he is game.
Try to keep it away from work colleagues as they could do more harm than good. Obviously in time, and if you do end up dating, then you should tell a select few. People at work tend to like a bit of gossip and therefore rumours will fly…
Dating at work can be really rewarding if it works out, but do be aware that there are downfalls.
