Texting is simple, fast and cheap… and it avoids us actually talking therefore appeals to many of us who may not be confident enough to ask someone out face to face. It’s an acceptable way of flirting and getting a date BUT there are some rules you must adhere to:
Flirt with caution
Texting doesn’t have a ‘tone of voice’, in other words people read it according to how they feel at the time. Text something a little too sexy and they may take it entirely the wrong way and brand you a pervert! Remember that what you send is on their phone until they decide to delete it so if they want to they could show it to all their friends and make a mockery of you. The best thing to do is keep them guessing – don’t give too much away… use they psychology to get them thinking about your text and a possible double meaning.
Finding cheap date ideas for teens doesn’t have to be hard. There’s loads of things to do you’ve just gotta be creative. You don’t need to break the law and blag it into a bar with your fake ID, just open your eyes to what’s happening in the area. You don’t need to spend a fortune to have a good time, but there are some things that are just too uncomfortable…
Let’s start with places that are deffo out are:
• Dinner with the folks (yours or theirs)
• Dinner with the grandfolks (yours or theirs)
Hi, I met this guy online recently and we have been chatting for months. We have flirted with a bit of sexually fuelled banter, but all in jest and nothing kinky. I really like him and it sounds like the feeling is mutual. I am meeting him next week and am now thinking I may have led him on a little too much and he’ll be expecting sex on the first date which I won’t do. How shall I play it? The more I think about it the more it worries me ;-<
Tina, Basingstoke, UK
Yes it’s an unusual post for a blog I agree, BUT until you’ve tried it don’t knock it!
Why the supermarket I hear you say. Well lets look at the following reasons:
Going to the supermarket is something we do very often so your date won’t think anything of helping you get your ‘emergency shop’ in before a date.
1 – You’re looking out for spending habits. Are they impulse buyers or are they very choosy. You will learn 10 times more about them by monitoring their shopping habbits than you would over a table in a restaurant. Remember that you are looking for natural personality traits rather than forced ones!
2 – Are they healthy? Do they go straight to the healthy fruit and veg section OR do they go straight for the cleaning section (obsessive cleaners!).
When on an early date it’s quite easy to dry up. I’m not talking about alcohol (but that helps), I’m talking conversation. Maybe they are boring or you don’t like them, but awkward silences really are awkward on a date!!!
Whatever you do don’t talk crap and babble a load of rubbish to keep it going for the sake of it – it’s a sign of nerves and is very unattractive to the opposite sex.
Try some of the following:
• Ask some questions (see this post) that present some laughter opportunities. Questions that will get them chatty and more comfortable with the situation are great ice breakers.
• Go for a walk. It may be the environment that is the problem, do something spontaneous like go for a quiet stroll (in a populated area of course). Physical movement will spur conversation and expend that nervous energy.
• Talk about music. Everyone has an opinion and can talk forever about bands they’ve seen or their musical taste in general.