Arguing in a relationship is healthy
Posted by Hayden Allen on Thu 23rd August 2007 at 03:39 AM, Filed in Dating Safety
In a relationship, if you don’t argue there’s normally something wrong – it’s healthy to disagree and sometimes argue as it allows you to present your independence within the relationship and lets your partner know where you stand. Obviously if the arguing is always occurring then you know something is wrong too, but there is a happy medium.
Arguing is a process of cleaning the relationship. Most arguments get heated, but when everyone cools down you tend to have built a stronger bond although it may not feel that way at the time.
If you repress your anger then it turns into a whirlwind of destruction when it comes to your love life because you end up getting bitter and resenting them more. Be honest and open and get those feelings out – they’ll respect you and your position in the relationship.
Arguing helps you both clarify your points and in some instances drives passion within both parties. The key to arguing successfully is to show respect to your partner and listen to them first before you pass judgment, and never get personal. Control the anger and you will control the whole scenario.
“You should only talk about the problem long enough that you both understand what the problem is. Then start working on the solution.” Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D.
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