Can friendship blossom with the ex?
Relationships that normally end in friendship are the ones that you can’t help but grow into after the lust stage. You have been dating them for a while but ended up loving them as a friend and lost the lustful side of the relationship. This is all too common and certainly nothing to be ashamed of.
The question is ‘could you and should you remain friends with the ex?’
According to a recent study, 50% of men are more likely to hold on to an ex than women, who rate at 27%. Believe it or not you can actually become addicted to someone caused by a chemical reaction in the brain, releasing endorphins, adrenaline and oxytocin.
This is why we are often so concerned about breaking up with someone as we will lose a vital part of what we crave. So if you are going to break up is it best to go cold turkey move on, OR stay in touch and remain as friends.
From experience I am the sort of guy who can be friends with an ex and be entirely amicable. Obviously it is hard at the beginning because the routine dies, BUT if you can give yourself and your ex some space over the coming months to sort your heads out, then there is no harm in dropping them an email to say hello and keep the channels open. Obviously if it has been a difficult break up then you may just want to forget about it and move on… fine and nothing wrong with that.
What you shouldn’t do is try to reignite it once it has failed. It opens up wounds for both of you and can actually make the other loath you. It’s all about space when you break up so make sure you give plenty of it. Resist the temptation to contact an ex just because you have their number in your black book… they will read straight through the lines and see that you are lonely and desperate which is a really unattractive place to be in.
Beware though, that if you are capable of remaining good friends with the ex, if and when you get into a new relationship, your new mate my find it a little strange and be put off by it. If this is the case resist any temptation to bring up the past with your ex whilst your new partner is about – obvious recently.
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