First date…. Don’t forget these!
Ever heard of dating etiquette? Most of the ladies I have dated don’t seem to have! Is it me or are we becoming a nation of ‘can’t be arsed with etiquette?!
For all those people who need to know the basic rules this is for you, send it onto your date if you are brave enough!
• Be 5 minutes early. It’s so embarrassing to be hanging around under the clock at Waterloo for 15 minutes with all the other mugs. If you are trying to be fashionably late… don’t, first impressions count and this is a crap way to start a date.
• Make your date feel relaxed. No doubt you will be nervous, but it will help you feel better if you help your date get used to the atmosphere between you. Drop a joke or say that they look nice or something (even if they look like a tramp’s dinner!)
• Dress to impress. I’m not talking slag wellies and a belt, but I am talking ‘looking your best’. You need to think about your date and how they will feel when they see you – you don’t want them to feel embarrassed now do you.
• Keep the conversation going. Ask questions that are open ended. Stay away from questions that are ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Don’t take a load of notes with you – it’s not a job interview, but do have a couple of easy going questions in mind. Check out my recommendations for questions to ask on a date.
• Be interested in them. They want to know about you of course but don’t overcook it and tell them everything from ‘where your mum’s dentist is based to what colour pants you are wearing’! Ask them their opinions and thoughts on things – involve them and they will feel like you are welcoming them in.
• The first date is a great opportunity to present your personality. If the arrangements are up to you… think about what activities represent you, and I’m not talking about hitting the pub, getting smashed, and then breaking into rugby songs!
• Be yourself. Never easy on a first date, but if you can be yourself and they like it then you are on to a winner. There are no surprises.
• Be honest. Don’t lie about yourself, you will get exposed and look like a complete plonker. In the same way, if they are not for you tell them. This takes guts BUT saves you a lot of hassle in the long run, trust me!
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READER COMMENTS:
Two extra tips - from one who dates a LOT (but who’s still single so maybe I need to listen to tips not give them...)
Listen - I’m always chatting and don’t necessarily hear what they say. People do give away a lot - but not necessarily in an obvious way. It can save a lot of wasted second dates if you listen first time round.
And Leave Early...Leave them wanting more - drinking on til 2am on a school night on a first date will not impress.
Posted by LondonGirl on Fri 27th October 2006 at 04:26 PM | #