How to ask for their hand in marriage.

Posted by Bob Bulmer on Wed 11th July 2007 at 03:10 AM, Filed in Proposal Ideas

In our wonderful world of equality both sexes can ask for the others hand in marriage, unless you have an arranged marriage of course!

If you are thinking about popping that question the this article is for you, a sort of checklist that you should bear in mind!

PMA (positive mental attitude)
Make sure you are confident that they are going to say ‘yes’ before you dive in. Any doubts do a little more digging without giving the game away!

Find your romantic side
If you are going to ask them, do it in style. A pissed down on one knee in the pub on a Friday night is really not the way to do it… Confide in your closest friend or family if you are stuck and get some inspiration for how to do it. How you do it may actually influence their decision so don’t go getting it wrong!

The ring
It’s all very nice getting hand me down rings from family… but an engagement ring is a very personal thing, and you ask any lady they will tell you that they would appreciate something new rather than a hand me down. The quality of the ring is also extremely important – the first thing they want to do is show it off to their mates, and if the diamond (or crystal for cheapskates) falls out then you won’t be very popular! Invest wisely and check out my article on choosing the perfect ring. 

Asking permission
Want to impress their folks, then ask their permission to wed them first! Yes it’s an old skool way of doing things, but it presents you as responsible and you will win the family crest if you do – unless they hate you of course! Always do this, especially if you are marrying Daddy’s little girl!

Make it sentimental
Engagements are often remembered more so when sentiment is involved. Where did you meet them, have your first snog etc… maybe that is the place to ask them!

When to have it?
Unless you have agreed on a long term engagement you will need to start planning the big day ASAP. This can test the strongest of relationships, and then you have the financial commitment. Be sure you can afford it and don’t stretch yourself otherwise this can put unnecessary stress on the relationship. Have a plan and stick to it, as soon as you start feeling uncomfortable with any aspect of the wedding then you must talk!

Cherish the moment
Life is going to change for you and your partner almost over night. The family will start running around you, questioning you and wanting to get involved. Make sure you cherish the moment as a couple before you announce it.

Practice makes perfect
Before you go off and pop the question at the top of the Eiffel Tower, run through how you are going to do it first. You want to make the experience perfect, and practice is therefore what you need!

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