How to handle a clingy Ex!
You’ve dumped them but keep getting texts, calls and the feeling they are watching your every move – they were clearly not ready to break up with you and obviously still have feelings and will no doubt be very jealous.
It can be hugely frustrating based on the fact you will find it difficult to get on with your life and meet new people without your ex interfering.
So what can you do to avoid a clingy Ex? There are a number of rules you should adhere to, here are the main ones:
Honesty – Although the truth may hurt them, they need to know. As long as you can be honest with them they have to respect that. If you give them any false hope or news they will cling. Tell them you like someone else if that is the truth, they will need to know to help the ‘getting over you’ process. If it will never work for you, tell them straight. Hey will hate you at first but then come to realise that it was the best thing. It’s vitally important to give them the reason for the split as this is what they will take away and think about.
Keep your dirty washing to yourself – So you had a tough break up, you will no doubt have mutual friends and it is imperative that you don’t involve them. It’s not nice finding out someone else’s problems, especially when you and your ex are both their friends. Jus try to keep off the subject entirely.
Arm’s distance – Don’t ignore them, but make it clear you need to spend time apart for the foreseeable future. It will help them get over you if they have no contact at all. Try to establish through friends when you may bump into the ex, and make alternative arrangements for a few months.
Don’t give them false hope – If you are going to break up and see no hope in the relationship then do it straight and don’t talk about second chances etc. Even talk of friendship will allow them to think there is a chance. The truth is that you WILL almost always end up mates in time.
No booty calls – After a night of booze, the mobile almost always comes out and you scan through all your ex’s for an easy pull. Put that mobile away, it’s not worth it and you’ll end up kicking yourself in the morning. I have always deleted ex’s numbers off my phone for this very reason.
Become cupid – There’s no better way to show that you want them to be happy than set them up with another date. Obviously you can’t do this immediately, but in time it’s a great strategy for showing you care about them and that you want them to be happy.
If all the above fails, then you will have to weigh up just how much pain and agro they are causing you. Remember that you need to be happy too. You have a couple of options in this circumstance:
Extreme resolution – Restraining order through the courts
Have a go yourself – Tell them that you are annoying them and they will lose your friendship if they carry on
Get a friend to tell them straight – If they just are not listening to you, talk to their best friend and get them to address the problem
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