How to handle rejection.
It’s something all us have had to endure on a weekly basis normally, if not in a professional environment then a personal one. Strangely enough, in a professional environment we seem to be able to take it a lot better, but when it’s our personal one… then most of us are sensitive enough for it to be taken personally – it’s human nature I’m afraid.
This article is about dating and rejection. When we get knocked back we feel small, insignificant, insecure and unwanted. It’s so easy to look inwardly at this stage ad this is the worst thing you can do.
There are loads of different forms of rejection and almost every scenario is different. From an unfaithful partner, to being left at the wedding alter to your date not turning up they all feel the same but obviously have different levels of severe ness and knock on effects.
It’s funny how we as humans, when rejected, turn the blame on ourselves. You beat yourself up, maybe it’s your size, hair, nose, personality, etc, maybe there was something you did – the questions fly… and plenty of them. Forget all this, I appreciate it’s not easy, but you can’t blame yourself, unless of course you have caused it (had an affair etc). You are who you are and you are more than likely a nice person if you are feeling like this.
Maybe we are to blame – but more often than not it’s just not meant to be.
It takes a strong person just to get up and move on, time is our best healer. I suggest that you preoccupy your mind as soon as possible. True friends show themselves at these times and help you through it – no doubt you’d do the same for them.
Our fear of rejection ends up becoming our downfall in many occasions. How many times have you see a gorgeous potential partner but said to yourself ‘they’d never go out with me!’ This is precisely what will let you down and why ‘great looking people’ are often single!
I dare you… try it, what you got to lose? What’s the worst thing that could happen, they say ‘no way’? The more you get knocked back the stronger you become, FACT! And the more confidence you have the more you really don’t care what people say and think.
We should embrace rejection, we can learn a shed load about ourselves, but it’s vital you don’t think too hard about it and reflect negatively on yourself.
If you are on the other side of the coin however, and are the one that will be doing the rejection, just appreciate how it makes people feel and therefore think about your actions before you make them. Treat others as you’d like to be treated and you can’t go far wrong.
Bear this in mind… although it may seem like the end of the world at first, once time has done its healing you will be relieved that it happened as you will see that it wasn’t right anyway.
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