How to resolve an argument with your lover.
Why is it that we expect our other halves to be telepathic and know exactly when we are unhappy with them or their behavior.
Some of make I entirely obvious and others hide it away… festering!
So this article is for you, and shows you how to indicate how pissed off you are without getting in the ring!
It involves a four step process:
Step 1 – Talk!
Express you are unhappy by stating clearly why. Don’t shout it at them, just look at them in the eye and in a serious tone express why you are upset. By shouting you are inviting them in to a boxing match where you will accomplish nothing.
Step 2 – Listen!
Once you have expressed your dissatisfaction, let them explain themselves. A good relationship thrives off give and take and this is what you are doing. You are being entirely fair by listening to what they have to say.
Step 3 – Breath & stay calm.
Take things in your stride. If things get heated, say “I need a couple of minutes to gather my thoughts” and go for a walk or something. There’s nothing worse than getting more and more wound up and wishing you hadn’t said this or called them that! Go and think about it, you’ll also diffuse the situation quickly as well as keep your cool.
Step 4 – Don’t be so stubborn!
If they have truly done something wrong, by keeping your cool and carrying out the above actions, they will feel guilty. Don’t fight fire with fire! Always be prepared to say sorry if you have done wrong, and by following the above, if they have done wrong, they will be feeling guilty and be the one who apologizes.
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