How to tell if they are having an affair
Its more common than you think, you go on a date and your partner is actually leading a double life and is already married or in a relationship. Their intentions may be entirely admirable and they may be in the middle of breaking up, OR they could just want to play the game…
‘Don’t take relationship advice off this bloke if you see him!’
There may be many reasons why your partner may be doing this:
1 - They want to see if they still have it!
2 - They may be looking to boost their confidence.
3 - They may not be getting any action from their partner and just bored or frustrated.
4 - They may just be a date-aholic.
5 - They are self obsessed assholes!
Whatever their motive its clear that its entirely unfair on you and their partner. These people are often selfish and self obsessed. Like I say, in most cases it may be innocent and you needn’t worry, but you should be aware that it does happen.
There are a few ways you can tell if someone is having an affair. Be clear that if you are in the early stages of dating it is quite acceptable to be dating other people, as long as the person ids honest with you and you know where you stand. If they are interested and attracted to you they will hopefully choose you and stay with you and cut ties with all other dates.
The tell-tell signs of a person cheating on a partner are as follows (these are actual answers from people who have been unfortunate enough to experience it):
1 - Lies – if stories seem to change, be aware that they are hiding something from you.
2 - Clues – If you travel with them in their car, look for signs of a previous passenger of the opposite sex (e.g. lipstick in glovebox etc).
3 - Wedding Finger - Look on their wedding finger, even if there is not a ring there look for a tan line.
4 - Time – after a few dates, is your date consistently having to go home at a specific time?
5 - Commitment – After a few dates (say 5) is your date hesitant to share any feelings with you?
6 - Venue – Is your date acting suspiciously about where they chose to meet up? They may not want to meet in the same vicinity as they live for the risk of being seen.
7 - Concealed Phone calls – Is your date popping off to make secret phone calls, maybe giving a partner at the other end a story about being at a business meeting.
I suggest you play it very cool to start and look with suspicion as to any of the behavioural traits above, and if you witness any then be very subtle in getting to the bottom of them. If you have been the victim I’d very much like to hear from you, let me know your story which I will publish (anonymously) so other people can read the signs .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address).
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READER COMMENTS:
Mood Swings! - If he’s acting like a plain ole a$$hole… confront him, don’t ignore it. He’s being short with you because he’s got someone else’s stuff on his brain.
Posted by Ashley on Wed 21st March 2007 at 08:07 PM | #