I like this guy…

Posted by Ruth Miller on Thu 28th June 2007 at 04:14 PM, Filed in Body Language

Hi, my name is Suzanne

I’m 25 and I like this guy who is 22. He’s kind of shy though and he’s always looking for me to take care of him (I work at a bank). He’s a customer. Any ways, he gets kind of nervous when I take care of him and I get all shy that I don’t know what to say. How do I approach him or ask him out. OR…..do I have to wait and if he’s interested in me, he’ll ask me out.

Hey Suzanne

Tricky situation by the sound of it because it encroaches on your professional life and you don’t want to do anything to jeopardize that. You also have a control over him because as his clerk you know his finances, tread carefully and follow the instructions below.

So, what do I suggest… As a man I can understand that he is probably a little intimidated by you because you are a little older than him and he’s probably feeling exactly the same as you in terms of not sure how to approach the situation, whilst being scared of an embarrassing rejection because he doesn’t know how you feel. BUT if he is nervous around you that tells me he likes you.

Try a little body language technique next time he is in – it’s called ‘mirroring’. When talking to him next watch him very closely to see if he mirrors exactly what you do (but subconsciously). If he does, then this is a true sign he’s into you, and a good time to write your number on a bit of paper and ask him to call you if he fancies going out for a drink – take the lead, don’t wait for his… but only if you are confident his body language is positive in terms of him fancying you.

Also look for these:
• Visible increase in physical contact (e.g. touching your arm, their hair & lips)
• Loads of eye contact that becomes more intense
• Clear interest in whatever nonsense you are talking about
• Position of their body points to you
• Their pupils widen

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