Is it really worth getting back together?
So you got dumped or did the dumping and now there is an opportunity to get back together. What you have to think about is whether it is right to get back together and why you are going down this road – are you lonely and it’s the easiest option? This is normally the reason, and certainly one you shouldn’t think about. If this is the case get online and find a date or go join a salsa class or something – just put yourself out to meet new people.
I personally don’t go back, I made a pledge to myself never to do so because ‘variety is the spice of life’ in my book and we all need to experience new things to keep motivated.
If however you feel getting back is the right thing to do, then go for it. Here are some pointers for doing so:
Ensure they have the same motivations – why do they want to get back with you, is it for the same reasons as you, if not what are they truly feeling and why are they doing it!
Think with your head rather than your heart – Whilst you obviously like the thought of going out with them again (that’s your heart talking), is your head saying the same thing? Be totally honest with yourself and if there is an element of doubt just don’t go there.
Think about why you broke up – Did either of you cheat or become bored, and if so what’s the likelihood of that happening again? Again, be honest with yourself as the only person who will lose out is yourself.
Have a game plan – If you really want to make it work again, then you need to go into this relationship with a different view. Make it more spontaneous and exciting for the other person, take them on surprise trips and generally try new things. If this doesn’t work, get out of the kitchen!
Can you trust them – If you can’t, then just walk away and think nothing more of getting back together, it’s not worth it!
Easy like Sunday morning – What’s the rush? Slow down and enjoy getting to know them in a different light. If you rush head on then you may make them feel uncomfortable. The slower you go the easier it is to asses whether or not it’s such a good idea after all.
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