Ladies, don’t accept 2nd best!
Written by Chantelle from TopStylista.com
We’ve all heard the saying ‘men are like busses, none come for a while then they all arrive at once’! It’s the times when you are waiting at the bus stop of love that make it too easy to take the first thing that shows you any attention.
In order to help you find Mr Right you need to first understand and accept the possible scenarios you will experience when waiting for the right bus. What I will say initially is that there is more pressure in our modern age for a woman to have another half. It seems to me that it is perfectly acceptable for a man to be free and single; however a single lady is more likely to be frowned upon. There is also the different thought patterns of men to women, and most women tend to be more sensitive and put far too much pressure on themselves to find a dependable man (that’s a whole new issue!!!)
Biological Clock
Its something that naturally occurs to most women, that when they reach late twenties to late thirties they have the burning desire to breed – this is human nature and arguably why we have been put on the Earth. Its all to easy to panic and take the nearest man that comes along for the intention of breeding. There’s also the pressure of your peer groups (friendship circles) for when they start dropping babies. We’ve all seen it happen. What you have to do is stop and think very seriously as to whether you could have children with this man. Oh… and don’t ring up the subject in early dates – it’s the best way to lose a man before you have even found him!
Work
If you are working you will know that work pretty much takes over our lives to a degree, even more so for women as they have to fight for recognition in the work place. Therefore you tend to work longer hours and give it everything. Therefore where can you find the time to meet someone? This is why online dating has taken off in a big way. You may have even checked out the guys at work for their suitability (article – dating at work) which can be disastrous if it goes wrong, but hugely rewarding if it goes right. So if this sounds like you then I suggest you give yourself a little more space and time to meet new people in new activities that are not work related – join the local Salsa class.
A higher league
How many guys have you seen and thought, ‘there’s no way he would even look at me, I have no chance’. Well it may surprise you to know that he will more than likely be going through similar thoughts to you! Nothing ventured nothing gained girls. Go for a day at a spa or something, a new haircut, shopping trip, just pamper away until you feel comfortable with yourself and go for it.
The old insecurity thingy
Well, us ladies tend to go through bad patches and it appears like we do more so than men! That’s rubbish. Men are just as likely to go through dry spells fir the same reason which is that you just don’t have the confidence. Maybe you just broke up with someone and are feeling a bit deflated. My advice is to join a gym and get our all your insecurities by ‘working it out’. You will become more confident as you feel fitter, and look fantastic too.
Boing, boing
We’ve all been dumped at some point in our lives and this is never a nice thing. However it amazes me how many girls want to feel the exact same emotions and therefore find the nearest bloke to them at the time and try to live the relationship that just ended. Move on. You will be stronger anyway (although you won’t feel like it). Rebound romance can however help our self esteem, just make sure it’s a guy that you want to be with and not some gross asshole from the local!
Whatever you do ladies, just relax and be happy with who you are and what you have. Its at these times when we are happy in ourselves that we can snare us a god!
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