Lengthy engagements to be married – just a comfort zone?
Wedding proposals are not something to take likely. What does an engagement really mean? Well, in the good old days of the (pre 1980’s) people normally proposed to their partners with the intention of marrying quickly in succession. However something seems to have changed (certainly here in the UK anyway). We seem to be in no hurry to get hitched, men are guiltier than women I must add.
You can partly blame the pressures on young people today; mounting debt, getting on the property ladder, having kids later in life are just a few of the reasons for the delay.
However there seems to be another emerging reason for the wait… it’s all part of what’s known in relationships as the comfort zone. Think about it, if a man proposes to a woman, in his eyes she almost becomes his property (and vice versa) and will give him comfort that she isn’t going anywhere for a while. In addition to this, relationships often just get to a point where there is nowhere else to go and therefore we propose to eek out a little more time with that person in a last ditch effort to retain their love because we can’t face to go it alone again.
My advice to you is; if you aren’t 100% comfortable with the idea of marriage or you are doing it for any other reason than you want to dedicate your entire life to your partner, forget it. You are after all committing your entire life to that person – divorce isn’t cheap and it’s a drain on life.
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