Making assumptions whilst dating is a dangerous game!
When you start dating someone all you can do is make assumptions! Most of us don’t wish to pressure them into letting us know how they feel for example because it may be too heavy to soon, so we make assumptions about them – it’s natural.
Unfortunately assumptions bring with them misunderstandings, guilt and embarassing situations. An example may be that they are acting as if they really like you, you go with it and go infor the kill only to find them pull back and say something like “WTF! , we’ve been friends for 10 years and you’re like a brother/sister to me”.
The moral of the story is to check your facts first before you make assumptions. Do whatever you need to do to find out if you are correct in your assumptions before you do anything, even if this means asking a direct question because you can’t decide any other way!
Don’t let your feelings cloud your judgement.
Here are some helpers to ensure you don’t assume:
Ask friends for their oponions – are they reading the signs as well?
Understand their body language – Check out my tips here
Be prepared to move on – if you have got it wrong, so what. The least that will happen is that they will be flattered no doubt. Move on!
Don’t expect – You should never go out with expectations that certain things will happen. Who knows what will… just see it as a new experience and enjoy it.
Be open and honest – If you feel a certain way and you believe they have feelings for you then why not just ask them! Although you may get laughed at, at least it won’t be as embarassing as getting a slap or a glass of water thrown all over you!
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