Should we take a break from dating after breaking up with a partner?
Obviously it depends upon how long you dated them for. If it was a quick encounter then why not… get out there, I’m sure you won’t be too cut up about them anyway.
However, it’s a slightly different story if the relationship lasted some time or you were really cut up about the split. Don’t go dating if you don’t feel up to it is my advice to you – wait until it feels right and you are entirely comfortable with the idea of it.
Find your freedom again, whatever you decide to do!!!
Time on your own after a relationship that’s lasted a while is a must, and the reason for this is that you need to get to know yourself again and what you want from life. We tend to depend heavily on partners, and when they go you will no doubt discover that it feels lonely without them… but just try to understand who you have now grown to become. We change constantly in our outlooks and priorities for living and getting to know yourself by being single allows you to develop an idea as to new goals, motivators, and of course new friends. Being single isn’t that bad anyway, you are not committed to anyone or anything so you can be as selfish as you want until you are ready again.
So how do you get to know yourself again? - Well, start with doing things that you want to do. You may have an urge to join a dancing class or going on a vacation with mates or even alone. Just go with the flow and enjoy the fact that you have no-one to answer to. Don’t wallow in self pity, yes you may feel like this is the thing to do, but at the end of the day it won’t achieve anything. Ask your friends to help you too, get down the gym or a class with them and enjoy getting to know them better too.
Dating on the rebound is certainly a no-no. We tend to look for qualities of our ex (if we are the one who was dumped), which always ends in disaster because you want them to be someone they are not.
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