Who should ring who after the first date?
This is always a tricky question, and we’ve all been there.
These sort of questions buzz round your head:
How well was I received?
Did I go over the top and say something I shouldn’t have?
Did they find me attractive?
Remember, your date is probably going through those exact feelings too.
These, as well as hundreds of other questions fly around your mind as soon as the date finishes, and the more attracted you are to your date the more questions you ask.
In terms of who should contact who after a successful date, I always work on the following rule:
Don’t bring it up at any time during the date as it may be seen as a little forward. If needs must wait until the dying moment of the date and then if your date doesn’t bring it up, ask a direct question like:
“Did you have a good time tonight, and would you like to do it again?”
If the response is positive, then is your chance to suggest a second date. I always try to get my date to call me – play it cool and if they like you they will get back in touch. Try not to offer up the next contact, this will boost your confidence when they get back in touch.
You must make it obvious however that you enjoyed yourself and had fun and would like to do it again.
Another rule I live by is not to try any sexual advances:
As a man you are cheapening yourself to your date – ladies will think ‘how many other dates has he done this with?’
As a woman you are giving too much away too soon and limiting the chances of another date.
In summary, try to get your date to call you don’t offer up the next contact until the last moment if it hasn’t been mentioned – and if you do, play it very cool!
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