Why do people stand people up?
Being stood up is possibly the one single most disrespectful thing you can do to a date. That guy sitting in the corner holding a rose, big smile and keeps turning the waiter away and looking at his watch is going through hell!
What should he do? Get up and go, or hang on in the hope his date has been held up by something pretty serious. Put yourself in their situation for a brief moment… horrible!
So why do people do it? Well, there are a couple of reasons:
They lose their nerve and panic about meeting someone new.
Normally nervous people with little dating experience. Not a lot you can do to avoid this apart from ensure they know you are feeling the same way and there’s no pressure.
They check you out first without you knowing and don’t like what they have seen.
This can be avoided by giving people up to date photos of yourself (and vice versa). Nothing worse than someone thinking they are meeting someone 10 years younger. Also, be sure to look good!
They are too selfish to bother as something better came up.
Yes, they are out there I’m afraid. You will know if they give off an arrogance… just stay away from them.
There is confusion over the venue and you both end up thinking the other has blown out.
Be sure to check and make sure you have the right time right place agreed on an email. Get it in writing and there’s no excuse.
An emergency comes up for them which is unavoidable.
Ensure they have your mobile number so there are no excuses. OR give them the venue’s number and say ‘if something comes up here’s the number for the restaurant’.
We’ve all been blown out at least once in our life, it’s part of the dating game unfortunately. But keep to dating etiquette and don’t do it. What you got to lose by having the date – you may make a great friend, they don’t have to be marriage material!
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